the importance of looks in relationships

[karynrg]

after an interesting conversation i had with two dear friends i started thinking about the importance of appearance in relationships. what can i say, i start thinking after talking with people i appreciate and you are getting to see some of the questions that run in my head. i was wondering what is the importance of appearances in the beginning of a relationship, how much weight they have in determining if the person will have an opportunity to get a chance to show us there other sides, and how many people we miss out because at first glance we overlook them.if all participants in this relationship game know that they need to impress the other side aren't we dealing with a show, and if the purpous of meeting new people is to find a friend/lover isn't this intention missed? when is it o.k to let your guards down and stop performing, if its ever o.k? and if we are performing isn't it deceiving the other person?does it change with age/experience/desperation? and if it does , does it mean we are settling down for second best?is it different for male and females and if the object is a candidate to be a friend or lover?im not trying to be naive or coy but i always thought that although looks are important to some extent they are not the dominant thing that makes a person attractive, and as you get to know a person there importance in determining the attractiveness diminishes. attractiveness is composed of many things like wit, intelligence, passionate soul, kindness, the ability to dream, friendship and more.or am i the freak for thinking like that????id like to know what you thinkp.s-isn't tattoos cover of the smiths "how soon is now" an abomination???how can anyone ruin this song???????????

"I am extraordinary, if you'd ever get to know me,I am extraordinary, I am just your ordinaryAverage every day sane psycho Supergoddess"

[ecuadorian_capoeirista69]

I would like to get to know you...I'm a musician too!

[karynrg]

hi ,
im sorry but im not a musician.tell me a bit about u.
karyn

[ecuadorian_capoeirista69]

well I vocalist for my band... I'm 19 I live in L.A.
I go Cal State L.A. I'm a brodcasting & physcology major. I like to watch the sunset on the beach. (with a women of corse)

Well...you bring up a good topic but you left out the underlying factor that determines the like-ablity of every person you encounter. The ability to love yourself... with that said I can move to your topic...as a young person you are influenced by T.V. magizines, peers,ect.. into thinking that beauty is most important. but as you grow older, your realize that people could be "atractive" but not to the sense that everyone percieves it to be. As for the fact of performance...we are all performing every day of our lives...however, if a person reacts to and interaction as if it were real then that interaction become real (it goes a lot deeper than that). As for impressions it is a part of our human nature to impress and be impression it all in the social means of an interaction. the "show" that we all put every day of our lives on is inevitable in our society which ruled soical interaction. i.e. in front of your parents don't you act like your and "angel" that can do no wrong but as soon as you go out you go crazy. that is an act! or when you need help from a strangers to try to seem very amiable...why? so they would help. Even if it doesn't seem like your are, you are still putting on an act.
and the biggest point of all the small "cliques" that we have now-a-days for example: Punkers, metalheads, gangsters ect... they all put on shows. os you see to act of putting on a performance is inevitable in and interaction.

[REINADECUENCA]

I'm 23, very fit with red hair. I'm an American. And my experience is that attractiveness really helps things if you want to be in an intimate relationship. Darn straight I am not putting myself down- I just can't. But you know I am not here to flirt or talk stupid with anyone. I just want to see who agrees with me. If attractiveness (physical ) is not important than, chemically, scientifically, how would your blood start to , well you know, and how would that feeling of OH YES TAKE me fit in? That is your answer. But hey, friends can be of any stature, attractive, not attractive, and after time maybe grow into something else. But for immediate healthy might I add, intimate connection- maybe just a movie at first,or even a hotel night-whatever- you need to be physically attractive and attracted to the other person who has their eye on you-NOT THE REST OF THE WORLD. Now those muchachos who were pompouse or ARROGANTE who just took this as a joke- and responded blandly- even they must agree with me. Hey we are all strangers here, BRING IT ON.

[bailamos]

I guess I can't participate in this.. am ugly as hell .. ladies you will be like eeuugghhh if you were to see me

[salinas_baller]

I WAS GOING TO RESPOND TO THIS BUT THEN I SAW HOW LONG IT WAS AND I SAID F-UCK IT