Racism

[yayita]

What do you guys think about marriage with other races, religion, etc.?
My boyfriend is British, but his parents are from India.
We having a difficult time with his parents accepting me. The ideal for then will be is he marry an Indian girl, that they pick.

Anny comments.?

[cicero151]

I believe I know how you feel concerning your boyfriends parents disaproving. As people get older, no matter what race they become less open minded and more subjective. All parents think they know what is best for their child, and I have seen marriages last years before the parents finally accepted the spouse. Don't ever make decisions to make other people happy, always find happiness yourself first. He should tell his parents that his content in a relationship should come before their wishes.

[laje]

If you and your boyfriend are really in love, your relationship will overcome his parents and anybody who oppose you. In any case, don't leave the subject to discussion. They have no say in his personal life. Just try to be a good daughter-in-law and wife.

[sachagringo]

darn you do have a problem on your hands! I will not pretentd im old and wise, or have a single idea about this kind of stuff but, all i have to say is. Show love, perserverance, and it will all come together in the end. If it doesnt kill ya itll make you stronger. wow how did u meet that guy? hum, thats cool. well peace
david

[Virtual_GOD]

yayita,

Is your boyfriend White?

Are you White?

"Race" may not be the issue in your case. Indians (people from India) have a long standing tradition of marriage. Most if not all of their marriages are arranged by the parents and they only arrange marriages with other Indians.

I dated a lady from India once for a couple of weeks and we decided to break it off. We were beginning to recognize how much we had in common and our feelings were starting to grow for each other. We both knew it could never go any further because of India tradition.

We discussed it and broke it off. Tradition in India is that the offspring of an Indian and other marriage are not Indian. Now according to the logic the child is still "non-white" and is treated as such, but not Indian.

Follow you heart and your reason. Just be aware of what you're up against.

[Belanna]

Yayita, go after your love and don't give him up on him simply because his parents don't accept you. However, although they may look at you with a bad face, you should always and I mean always show them the respect they deserve for being your boyfriends parents. After all without them you won't have him. Hopefully with the respect you give them you'll win them over. Even if your boyfriend talks bad about the way they treat you, never agree with him, tell him that it's okay and not to mind them. But, don't do it to be phony, do it cause you actually care. Take care mama and good luck..

P.S. Talking from experience.